You've Got a Friend in Me

I think as I age, I definitely have started to reflect back on my life more.  And especially as I do this online dating stuff. . . I think. . . what if I meet someone and fall head over heels, will they get along with my friends and will my family like them??  And then I actually think about my friends. . .

I'm lucky to have some awesome friends (and family) in my life that always make me feel better.  It's funny because they really do counteract the people who I thought were friends who turned out to be sort of shitty.  Last year, I had a friend basically tell me what a horrible person and friend I was.  It really upset me because I had always thought of this person as a friend.  And it didn't really matter that other people told me that she was wrong, it mattered to me that she thought that as I never act in malace. 

But then other day when I came into work, it was pouring rain outside.  One of the lawyers was leaving the building and I made the comment about him going out there and I felt bad for him.  He then made the comment, that he too felt bad, and he didn't have an umbrella.  So I gave him my umbrella and told him just to put it on the 2nd floor reception area.  The funny part was that I didn't remember his name and when I went and got my umbrella, he hadn't remembered mine either.  But the Office Manager said "he didn't remember your name, but when he said it was a girl that has worked in the building for a long time, I knew you were the only one who would even do that."   And that's when it hit me that I shouldn't focus on what one person's bad perception (who was my friend) thought. . . but what someone who sees me from afar thinks.  Because that's what really shows your character. . . it's common practice to treat your friends well. . . it's how you treat someone when no one is looking. . . .

It also struck me on Saturday night what a good guy friend I have.  I had been out for a Bachelorette Party all night and when it was time to leave, I decided that I would just walk to the hotel 4 blocks away after my other 3 friends had their guys coming to get them.  Well, Vince said "Are you walking by yourself to your car?"  And I said "Yeah." And he said "Are you sure?"  To which, honestly, I knew I probably shouldn't and no one offered me a ride, so I said "Yeah.  I can just walk with these people that just left the bar in a huge group."  Well he said "No, I'm walking with you."  And luckily (for his wife) he decided to just have me give him a ride home and not wake her up after we got to the car.  This is also the same guy friend who has helped, not only me move, but friends of mine move.  AND he came a few weeks ago to remove brush from my backyard to my friend's timber.  He's just that nice. 

I had yet another date this week. . . which still no butterflies, but at least fantastic conversation. . . like we were old friends. . .and I was telling my cousin, D$, about him and she told me that I deserve the best person and everything I want in a person because I am a good person.  And she might be right! 

It's so easy to focus on the people who take you for granted and the people who don't appreciate your friendship and get down about it.  But now, I'm just going to start focusing on the people who I matter to.

I also want to say Congratulations to Sarah and Jon on their adorable baby girl, Lillian Rose.  I can't wait to meet her!!!!!  Two wonderful friends. . . who I wish lived MUCH closer.